Shelter In Place = Retirement/Disability Experiment

Like all of you, I have been home for two weeks now.  It looks like the schools will be closed beyond the April 15th timeline that was originally set.  I have had the opportunity to do things I haven’t been able to do or experience since I was diagnosed with my multitude of immune disorders.  Here are a few things I have learned about myself in the last two weeks that make disability or retirement not so scary for me now.

I was able to clean the apartment.  It took 5 days.  My husband even helped a little with the vacuum.  I used this cleaning activity as a different form of exercise.  I did the old fashioned type of mopping on my hands and knees with a rag.

I slept each night without the assistance of any sleep aids or pain killers.  In fact, I was able to keep the cpap machine on for an extra hour a night during these last two weeks.  I only fell asleep a little later than when I work, sleeping an additional hour.  The dog wakes me up.

I was still motivated to do yoga in the morning.  I even threw in circuit training once a week.

I used less to no cough syrup during the week.  I did not have severe coughing attacks everyday that I normally experience.  Less coughing meant less body aches.

My arthritis was not as severe.  I even finished a big knitting project.  Less pain, less pain killers, less water retention from the pain killers.

I was able to assist with one of my favorite charities.  Designing spreadsheets and work flow processes.  I haven’t had the time to that before for that charity.

I have gone down to 2 meals a day.  A large breakfast and a late lunch or early dinner that was medium size was all that I needed.  Less activity, less food needed.  I was able to maintain my weight.

I did get a little stir crazy around day 13 when I hadn’t left the apartment complex in a long time.  I alleviated it with doing an extra set of circuit training.

What does this have to do with retirement or disability?  Honestly, quite a bit.  It has been an anxiety of mine to be forced to leave work because of my health in the future.  I know now that I will only be little bored.  I have enough projects, friends and volunteer opportunities to keep me busy even if I am unable to go about business outside.

I am grateful for God allowing me to experience this with minimal worry about finances.  I am also grateful that God has allowed me to help the charity keeping my secretarial skills honed.  It will be interesting to see how God guides me through the next set of weeks to come.  Keep reading the Bible.  It provides peace of mind during this time of unknown economic and health crisis.

Update and Ramblings

I have good news.  I saw the pulmonologist this last week.  I had been concerned because I have not been feeling very good lately.  In fact, I have been in a lot of pain with a lot of coughing.  I was concerned my lung function had started to decline.  The doctor assured me that I am still stable.

After some diligent research on the Lupus site, Everyday Health and Sjogren’s Foundation, I did find out something interesting.  It is normal to have a flare of an auto immune during winter and spring.  Why?  Well, it seems that unbeknownst to us, our muscles and tendons flex with the movement of the barometric pressure changes that afflict the northern hemisphere during those seasons.  So, my increase of pain goes with the fibromyalgia being over stimulated.  The extra coughing goes with the lack of rain, increased wind and higher pollution counts.  Of course, the cold encourages me to stay in and cease exercising, causing a cascade of stiffness.  There you have it.

I have been getting a lot of questions as to my dealings with the Covid 19.  Honestly, my routine has not changed.  What changed was what I did when I was first diagnosed with Lupus three years ago.  I invested in gloves and clorox wipes.  I wipe down the main points of contact every morning.  Last summer, I upgraded to the hospital strength wipes.  I take the time to wipe down the coffee pot handle, fax buttons, telephone, keyboard, mouse, scanner screen, copier screen, door knobs, light switches and the handle on the toilet and sink every morning.  By the end, more than 2 minutes has passed as per the directions on the wipes allowing me to begin my day.   I am more concerned about getting the flu and roto virus than Covid 19.

On the lighter side (or heavier) depending on how you are feeling while reading this.

Covid Conspiracies I have heard-

  1.  New virus to distract from problem afflicting the elections.
  2. Coincidence that Covid came about when 5G phones were released in China.  Virus could be riding the technology wave.
  3. China getting back at world for sanctions.
  4. Shutdown of global economy.
  5. Elderly cleansing of the planet.
  6. Force United States to become self sufficient instead of importing so many goods.

I know that some of the ideas sound pretty weird.  But, it could be any one of those or none.  It is just interesting to hear what people think.

My job now has the custodians wiping down door knobs daily.  That wasn’t even done during the bird flu, H1N1, SARS and MRSA outbreaks in the last 10 years.   What I would like to know is why wasn’t this done on regular basis to begin with.  Every year, within 10 days of school opening, Roto Virus and the flu are rampant through the staff and student body.    Maybe this little extra step will continue to the beginning of next school year.  Maybe….student and faculty absences will be less with this step.

I recently listened to a broadcast about Covid 19 and the cause.  It was one of the conspiracies I listed above.  My favorite part of the whole broadcast was the end.  The guest speaker said that all this does not matter, except to know Jesus and hold our hope in Him.

Whether me or someone I know succumb to this virus, it is in God’s hands.  We all have a beginning and an end date that only God knows.

Every day God allows me to wake up.  He is not done with me yet.

Closing thoughts totally off the subject….

Take some time and see Code 8 and  Farmaggedon.  Code 8 is thought provoker and makes a person consider just how far we are from a new type of prejudice.  Farmageddon is a funny Shawn the Sheep movie.  Just sit back and laugh.

Enjoy the little things.  Let God carry the big things.

 

 

 

You are not alone

I wanted to share an update and an interesting article I found.

First of all, my purchase of steel toed work sneakers for the bruising of my toes has worked.  My toe nails are growing out nicely.  I figure in about 2-3 more months. I can go without dark nail polish again.   I am still trying to find a balance between yoga, circuit training and walking.  I am still ending up too sore most weeks.  That may just be the way it is due to the other underlying factors.

I am having a little anxiety about my pulmonary function test tomorrow.  Oh well, I am taking it easy today and drinking plenty of liquids.

I recently ran across an article on Everyday Health website by Cathy Gerard about “Celebrities with Rheumatic Diseases“.  If you get a chance, read it.  Everyday Health is one of my favorite websites.  The articles are relevant to my concerns along with being short and sweet.

Some of the highlights from this article are…..

Morgan Freeman has fibromyaglia and still exercises with golf and walking.  Dan Reynolds has ankylosing spondylitis and uses exercise with anti-inflammatory diet.  Nick Cannon has lupus and eats properly while taking preventative measures to avoid flare-ups.  Venus Williams has sjogren’s syndrome.  Matt Iseman has rheumatoid arthritis and uses a combination of yoga, swimming and social support.  There are more celebrities in this article.  I just wanted to highlight a few with what they are doing to control their problems.

Bottom line, these immune disorders do not discriminate on any level.  Work with your specialist team to find what works to help you control your issues.  As you know I am a strong believer of complimentary therapy along with the right medications.  So do your morning exercise, eat anti-inflammatory and adjust your lifestyle to stay symptom free as much as possible.  Find a support group of some kind or even start your own circle of influence that will help you.

Above all, remember God has your back.

Not feeling so Holly Jolly this Christmas?

I am not going to hide this.  I really enjoy Christmas.  I start planning my gifts for next year as soon as I have given out this year’s.  I enjoy it even more now that my sister is living close now.

For some reason, this year I haven’t been able to quite grasp the jolly of the season.  I am content.  I have food, good friends, housing, clothes, my dog…  Why am I not feeling it this year?

Well……you know I went into self analysis mode…..

It could be because….

  • I feel like I don’t have enough money to get everyone what I want to give.  (notice the I in that sentence?)
  • Work has sucked the life out of our office.  Even decorating the office was hard.  It didn’t help that someone helped themselves to our decorations one night.
  • It is hard to be happy when those close friends around you are suffering.  I want to help, but I am at a loss how to.
  • It is hard to be happy when so many of our students are getting in trouble for THC, vaping equipment and general anger issues.
  • Christmas and New Year fall in the middle of the week this year.  It is hard to plan anything during the week.  I work the weekends.
  • Family issues at home also influence how I react to the holidays.  If the other part of the family is not feeling it, I most likely will not either.
  • I can’t do everything I want to.  Decorating the house is work.  It used to be entertainment.

I could go on and on.  My final conclusion after witnessing so many young women and men go into mental health wards these last few weeks, the arrests for self medicating with THC vape pens and the overall lack of motivation at work, is that it is okay to be content this year.

Decorations at home don’t have to go up.  So someone stole decorations from work.  I need to pray that they use them in honor of God somehow.  (or honestly, what comes around goes around – God will get them.)  Even though I haven’t been able to give everyone what I originally intended.  God provided other substitutes.  Just like I don’t have a good day everyday.  Not every Christmas is going to be Wonderful.  It might just be Okay.   I did get my toes done for a Christmas party.

The point is that God allowed me to live another season with my friends and family.  I should relish that.

May you have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Picture from last year.

Back to school Blues

It has been a month since school resumed where I work.  I do not remember a more abusive start of school.  I have never seen an extremely sad incident used to intimidate other people so much.  I have spoken to other personnel across my school and school district.  All have experienced the same thing.  I have only the following to say…

  1. A school shooting in another school district does not give you the right to be verbally abusive to school personnel.
  2. This shooting does not give you the authority to ask personnel to override procedures to get your child extra services that you have made up.
  3. Due to this sad incident, more procedures and regulations have to be followed. Stop trying to go around them when they are in place for your child and your protection.
  4. Stop using this incident to intimidate me.  The following may be how I take your conversation.   So ask yourself the following…
    1. Am I using this incident to imply that I have a gun?
    2. My child has a gun?
    3. My child or I am seriously mentally ill?

Please understand that this is just my view on the opening of the school year.  I am hoping that next 9 months go smoother.  I am still there to help the students and parents I serve the best I can.

Just understand that I am unable to help you if you are loudly verbalizing your displeasure at regulations that I have no control over.

Verbalizing your requests loudly will just get you a meeting with the security guard outside my office.

I have spent a lot of time with God in the last four weeks asking for Him to paste my tongue to the roof of my mouth.  Blessings for those parents who have verbally attacked me.  Requested for inner peace for myself and those supervisors who are also under attack.  May He keep us all safe.

New Symptoms – new problems?

I haven’t had much to say lately.  My next round of respiratory tests and labs are in two weeks.  I did recently undergo a biopsy of endometrial material.  I won’t have those results for two  weeks also.  But,  I have noticed some of the following changes lately.  Please be advised that these may or may not apply to you and I will be bringing them up to the doctor.

  • Mosquito hands – every now and then I will have what I call mosquito hands.  What does that mean?  Well, during the process of trying to wind down and fall asleep, it feels like a bunch of mosquitos attacking my hands.  Only my hands.  This is not to be confused with the random pin pricks I normally feel as I fall asleep.  It usually takes a dose of aspirin and a valium to get them to calm down so that I can sleep.
  • Avoiding grains does make a difference –  I have  regressed now and then to conserve on time or convenience to eating foods that contain grains that are gluten – free.  This usually causes me to wake up the next morning with an achy body and/or a rash on my hands.  After two days of avoiding all grains, rash is healed and body aches are gone.  Avoiding grains does not seem to affect the amount of coughing.
  • Body breakdowns – recently I have been experiencing what I want to call body breakdowns.  I don’t really know how to describe it except that it starts with me feeling a little chilled.  Then it feels like a lead blanket (like the one from the dentist) being laid on me.  I am usually in bed before this lead blanket feeling overcomes me.  I am unable to move for about two hours.  I don’t fall asleep.  I don’t have  a fever.  But I am unable to do more than lay there and assure my dog verbally that I am okay.  After about two hours, it feels like the blanket is lifted and I am fine.  There does not seem to be a trigger or anything to bring it on.  I actually took a day off from work, stayed home on oxygen and drank about a gallon or more of liquids to see if it helped.  It did.  The next event lasted only 45 minutes.  But as soon as I got chilled, I drank a big glass of water and ran upstairs to lay down.  I can only guess that maybe I am getting dehydrated during the day causing this event.  I can’t explain it any other way.  It will be interesting to see what the doctor says.
  • Quality of vitamins do count –   I used to take a general multi-vitamin by Centrum and any generic of probiotics, calcium, biotin, iron and D3.  Well…..My labs steadily were getting worse regarding my hemoglobin.  So, I have been slowly switching to a “food -based” vitamin company.  I do admit that they are not cheap.  It has been three months since I have switched the iron, calcium and D3.  My labs in February were one point higher.  I have now added a more costly 16 strain probiotic to my regimen and a different multi for women over 50.  I have labs in two weeks to see if the hemoglobin returns back to normal.  If it does, then my investment in these particular brand of vitamins and other supplements will be worth it.
  • Remember Turmeric – I have recently discovered that taking turmeric at night is a must for me.  I forgot one night.  The next morning my hands were puffy and stiff.  This herb is great for reducing inflammation in the body.
  • Getting back social events – I have been blessed by friends and family to have scheduled once a month for me to attend some kind of community social event.  January, I saw chinese dancers.  February, my son took me to a piano concert and recently this month, my best friend took me to an opera.  Understand that the day before each of these events, I stayed at home on oxygen and rested.    It takes planning, but each event was thoroughly enjoyed.  So, if you can afford it (if you can’t- there are free concerts out there, you just have to find them), schedule yourself for something once a quarter or even once a month.  Plan ahead to get rest the day before and enjoy.

I hope these few insights help you with what you or your loved one is going through.  I am not in their shoes, so do not count this as advice.  Count this as my walk.  If anything I share helps you to feel better, wonderful.  If not, keep researching.  I am always looking for new information on treatments, complimentary medicine and psychological information to help me deal with my personal journey.

As God closes doors on what I can’t do anymore, He opens His arms even bigger to receive me and help me with what I can do.

Just Say It Plain

I have been pussy footing around about my health lately.  I had a checkup in August that caught me by surprise.  My health has taken a turn for the worse.

Yes, it has.  I can feel it now each day.  Each day gets just a little harder.  The neuropathy that was just a prick here and there in the evenings now feels like a swarm of mosquitos.  I now take my portable oxygen to work.  I find myself needing it at least once a week or more.  I race home in the evenings to get to the continuous unit.  Every outing seems more difficult.

I went to the movies the other day with my husband.  By the end of the movie, I could hardly move due to shooting pains in my legs from the arthritus.

Lately, I am relieved to see Fridays.  I find getting up on Thursday and Friday mornings to go to work to be difficult and unmotivating.

These are just a few of the things I am encountering.

I did submit a resume to another job prospect before my doctor’s appointment in August.  I am now being asked to follow through with an interview.  I had to tell a close friend why I have not followed through for the interview.  I had to tell them that I was not comfortable working so far away from home.  I also had to explain that my condition had gotten worse.  Nothing has hurt me more than explaining to a close friend that I am even closer to dying than previously.  I told this friend very frankly.  I was going to sugar coat it.  Let’s be honest, sugar coating this issue is not going to help anyone.  So, I kept the discussion to the facts and how I felt.  My friend accepted the news better than I thought.  Of course my imagination takes everything to the worst level.

Now, let’s talk about what I am doing to help manage this decline.

  1.  I do yoga every morning Monday through Friday whether “I feel like it” or not.  At least 20 minutes.  I do try to fit in another 10 minutes in the evening.
  2. I allow myself an alcoholic drink in the evenings when I want one.  Usually about twice a week and only one serving.
  3. I take the dog to work once a week with me.
  4. I make sure to walk the dog every morning.
  5. Take my medications as prescribed.
  6. Avoid the news.  It just makes me more depressed
  7. Allow my friends to help me.
  8. Keep my volunteering commitments.  I have continued to volunteer at a food bank every Sunday.  It helps distract me from my problems.  I do wear the portable oxygen while doing this.
  9. Get help from Customer Service when grocery shopping.  I wear the portable oxygen when shopping.
  10. Take time with my friends as precious and a priority.
  11. Take time off if needed to recoup and recharge to handle the rest of the week.

I have been diagnosed with further complications with regards to female problems.  I am going through the process of diagnosis and surgery may be possible in the near future.  I find this a little scary because sometimes I heal fast and other times I heal slow.  Since my bruises are taking a long time to go away, I am assuming I am in the phase of slow healing.

My only conclusion at this point is that I am in a flare up of my condition.  I am hoping that it will subside and or go into remission.  I have further testing in December.  At that point, it will be decided if I need to transition to retuxin drips for my condition.

I told my doctor in August that God knows my date and time, a transplant won’t make any difference.  Also, after doing a variety of researching, my chance of survival is around 20%.   I am sorry, that is just not high enough for me to risk it even if I cleared the process.

I am grateful that my friends have accepted my condition.  My daughter still gets tears when I cough excessively.

God has provided for me greatly these last few months.  Things have been a little easier financially.  I am grateful.

I do not know what is ahead nor how much time is left.  I place my hope in God that He will walk me to the end gently.  He gives me good days and good moments.  I enjoy each second.

May your journey with these conditions be as blessed as mine.

Hurricane Irma – Prep, During and After

I am happy to report that our family made it through the hurricane with little to no damage.  Having MCTD and a dog sort of forced us to stay in our apartment.  So, to give you guidance, I am going to share my preparations, what I did during and what I am doing now while waiting to return to work.

Preparation-

  • Gathered all medication in one area.  I put all extra stock of medication in a rolling suitcase in case we had to leave.
  • Placed all important documents in the same area as medication next to an empty sterlite container.
  • Filled all containers I could with filtered and tap water.
  • I even made some sun tea should we lose electricity.
  • Charged up all batteries for all electronics and medical equipment.
  • Made sure everyone was clean before high winds hit.
  • Had a contingency plan on how to use portable oxygen concentrator in the event of loss of power.  I figured I could use it as a minimum of two hours a night for a week (about 13 hours of battery) until we got power or I could charge it at someone’s residence.
  • Made food for my specific diet that could be eaten cold.

During-

  • Made sure to keep regular sleeping hours.  This storm was over two days long.
  • Keep exercising.  I did yoga every morning at my normal times.  I had memorized the moves due to consistent practice.  Played chase with the dog.
  • Had coloring books, crafts, books and knitting ready in case of loss of power.  I actually did a cross stitch piece when bored and lost internet.
  • Kept electricity use to a minimum.
  • I did use my oxygen during the night as prescribed.  I am grateful that we did not lose power.

After-

  • Unpacked all medications and put paperwork back.
  • Checked the apartment for damage, threw out garbage from two days being inside.
  • Continued yoga, Reiki and Bible reading.
  • Go outside and enjoy the sun.
  • Made food for meals and lunches for work.
  • Try to avoid driving around since limited gas for a while.

I have to admit that Daisy has enjoyed me being home these days.  Personally, I was ready to return to work a day after the storm was done.  But, I am one of the few with power and no children to worry about.

In the mean time, I am playing games and doing jigsaw puzzles on the computer  (we didn’t lose internet either.)

I hope this helps.  Again I am so grateful that the storm avoided us.  I was prepared in the event it did hit us.

The biggest tip I have to give you regarding seasonal natural disasters like hurricanes, typhoons, blizzards, etc. is to have the necessary supplies at the beginning of the season.  It was nice to know that we already had a case of bottled water and canned food to last a week or more.  I bought those at the beginning of the season with my first paycheck in June.

I know God was the one who protected us.  Due to that end, those that live in the building with me were also blessed.  The surrounding buildings had all lost power.

I will confess that I did break down and cry before the storm hit because of stress.  Before the storm, I did notice that my coughing did get worse two days before the storm, then returned to normal once it hit.

I never stopped believing that God would provide for me no matter what the circumstance.

How will family react?

What a question!  How will your family react as each doctor visit brings about further bad news and death knocking at your door?

Honestly, I don’t know.  I can only share with you my immediate family reactions.

My brothers who live all over the US –  one commiserates, the other two I don’t really know.  I want to think that they care, but they have their own problems.

My sisters – One completely understands and may even be suffering from some of what I have.  The other expresses concern and sympathy.

My children – Here are two total opposites.  My daughter leaks out a few tears and is trying to understand what is happening.  My son, well, he has his own thing going on.  I believe that he understands that I am ill and tries to help where he can.  Other than that, I am not sure how he really feels because he does not tell me.

My husband –  It depends on the day.  Some days he can be very protective of me.  Others he reacts that nothing has happened and I am not ill.  Then there are those days when he comes along side of me and supports me.  It really depends upon his mental status.

I would like to think that everyone understands and supports me.  The reality is that I am not in their shoes and I do not have telepathy to know their thoughts.  I understand that most people don’t really know how to react when I dish out more bad news.  I am okay with that.

The one thing I am sure of is that God knows what is happening, how I am feeling, and will make sure that my physical and emotional support is met at all times.

All I want for Christmas….

No, I do not want my two front teeth for Christmas.  I have spent this summer regifting and donating various presents from holidays past.  So…being obsessed lately with having little time, I thought I would expand upon a conversation I had with a close friend who died on the operating table this last spring, yet he survived.  He said he didn’t want flowers or gifts in the hospital.  Just seeing someone who cared to stop by meant the world.

As I am thrown about in this sea of information, instant self diagnosis, and doctor blah blah, I find myself craving something more precious than anything else in the world.  TIME.  I was once told that is how children and even pets spell love.

It isn’t that I feel cheated of having time.  But, after getting rid of all the candles, body creams and perfumes, I realize that I want something that most people don’t have much of.  Due to my respiratory illnesses, the candles, creams and perfumes were nice, but not really for someone with my condition.  What do I really want?

Let me give you some examples of what I have enjoyed the most over the last two years in my fight to survive.  Mostly it has been taking the time to listen, care and help me.

Go with me to the doctor or labs.   I even have a transit pass filled just for a partner.  These appointments are not usually happy.

Help me go shopping.  I don’t need you buy anything for me.  I do need someone to reach the top shelves and bring the groceries up the stairs.  Or even load the washer and dryer for me in the laundry room.

Take me to the mall and help me try on clothes.

Enjoy a cup of tea or coffee with me.  I usually always have hot water available.

Join me for a guided meditation.

Meet me for a church service.

Meet with me for a pedicure, manicure or even reflexology.

Join me for happy hour at my favorite pub.

Understand that I can’t do evening events.  But, on a rare occasion I am given free concert tickets, go with me.

If you feel you must take me out to eat, understand that I have food restrictions.  A lot of restrictions.  Let me review the menu before heading to a place.

Gifts of soaps and lotions.  Ask me my favorites and what scents don’t bother me.

A bottle of wine is always appreciated.

Just remember when thinking of holidays, birthdays or any other reason to get someone who has MCTD a gift.  Think about the time factor.  Your time with me (or other sufferer) is more precious than any other gift you could give.  Most of all, understand that death is lurking around in our minds.  You spending time with me takes me away from that reality.

My best time this summer was travelling to Chicago with two good friends for my college graduation.  I paid my own way and for our room.  I felt totally loved and cared for knowing that my friends put their lives on hold for a weekend to be with me so I would not be alone.  Another great time was spending a weekend with my sister learning Reiki.

My path to the end may be short.  But your time with me makes it seem more enjoyable.